Is it wrong to want a female friend who sees nothing wrong with offering some ual healing?

I have platonic female friends who I enjoy for their intellectual open-mindedness, but then I want one who I can enjoy for her ual open-mindedness. I don't think I'm a chulvinist and I am actually very faithful when I choose to commit, which is why I am very selective about who I give my heart to. But why is it that some women think it's BS and think I might not be trust-worthy in a serious relationship because I disclose this aspect about me. Should I just start lying then?